Stevie and I have always struggled with the "pastor's wife" cliche and expectations subconsciously and consciously put on her because of my calling. We believe that God's calling on my life is not placed upon her, but rather she gets to choose to participate in it as God leads her to.

It was a long and grueling journey of silence, humility, and repentance. It takes a lot for a person to throw away everything they thought they once knew, but I needed to remove dogma to make space for doubt. It was through doubt that I found faith and was led by the Spirit to a new place I was unable to go on my own.

Our job is not to heal, fix, or restore people....our job is to participate in the process of restoration. We are never responsible for the outcome, for that is far greater than us.